Monday, May 18, 2026

Weekly Round Up: New Digs!


A belated weekly round up: eats, workouts, watches, and reads.  Plus an abbreviated house tour!

ICYMI, I announced that Hubs and I have separated and that I moved to a rental house.  I won't be spilling any tea on that, so instead let's take a look at my new digs.

Where Is It?

Close to home, but not too close.  It's in another town and the location is "the wrong side of the tracks".  I'm not very close to them, but when the train is coming through it backs up traffic for a bit.  Other than that, the neighborhood is very walkable, and provides easy access to a walking path and biking trail.

What Is It?

A four bedroom, one bathroom house.  The one bathroom plus the train drives the rent down quite a bit.  Score!

Let's See It!

Sure!  If you came over, the living room is the room that you would see first.  It is also the room with the least amount of furniture, and it's going to stay that way for a while.  The main use of the room is to get to the rest of the house.

Here is the downstairs bedroom that I'm using as an office.  Doggo asked me to remind you to check your form on your downward dog.


Let's go into the kitchen.

Wait, something is missing...let's try that again.

The dinning area.


Laundry area.  This is the first time in my life that I have had first floor laundry, and now that I have it, I can’t go back.


The back room is the star of the show.


Last but not least, there is a large fenced back yard and a patio.  If the patio set looks familiar, it’s because I took inspo from Stephany.


So anyways, Doggo and I are settling in.  I don’t want to give the impression that it was NBD to move, because it wasn’t, but it was doable.  I have a decent amount of pre-martial furniture, and we had a lot of duplicates for kitchen stuff, so I didn’t have to start from square one.  Originally I was planning to drag the furniture buying process out over a few months, but then I realized that it wasn’t that much, so I went ahead and got most of it now.

Um Wanna Talk About Money?

Sure!  This is an example of a personal question that I think is fair and that I don’t mind addressing.  A few people have asked me if I will need to go back to work.

The answer is: not as far as I can tell and not for a long time if so.  I worked for longer than I needed to, I have a huge pile up of cash, and the market has done well, so even with the separation the money stuff is still on track.

Okey dokey smokey, that’s the new house, let’s get into our normal round up stuff!

Eats

In the chaos of moving I have not been planning epic meals, but I did take a minute to experiment with recreating a “Taco Bell but better” number.



I don’t know the proper name for their creation that is a hard taco on the inside with a soft taco on the outside and a layer of cheese in between, but when I had the real thing, the cheese was barely melted so the layers didn’t stick together.  I felt that I could do better.





And I did!  I fancied things up with nacho flavored hard shells, and it just took a thin layer of cheese and a very short time in the skillet to get everything to adhere.

Workouts/Wellness

I have not done a formal cardio workout since I moved.  Between you and me, cardio was starting to feel not quite right.

For the past few weeks I have not been short on physical activity, since, you know, I was moving.  I don’t know how other folks do local moves, but my method is to pack up all of the non-furniture stuff and take it over carload by carload.  Movers charge by the hour, so I prefer to use their time for the stuff that I’m not physically able to move.

As soon as I feel like doing something besides walking the dog and hiking, it will most likely be power walking or run/walk outside, and I also have a stadium nearby where I can hit the stairs.  Once the weather turns bad this fall, I will most likely join a gym.

Lest you think that I’m being a total slug, I’ve been keeping up with my self-created body weight strength routine.

On the sleep front, things are going well.  My routine used to be to take a magnesium tablet before bed and then take a melatonin only if I couldn’t fall asleep, but I’ve started being proactive and taking the melatonin whether I think I need it or not.  I still wake up frequently during the night, but I’m able to get back to sleep pretty quickly.

Watching

Just because we’re separated doesn’t mean that Hot Couples TV is going anywhere.  Hubs and I have been watching It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia.

On my own, I’ve been watching Friends.  I've seen episodes here and there, but I never watched it regularly.  It’s no Seinfeld, and I’m not sure if I’ll watch it all the way to the end, but its amusing enough.  

Back in the day, I made many attempts at trying to get my hair to Rachel, but luckily none of those photos exist today to my knowledge.  Just in case you ever need to know this, the Rachel hairstyle first shows up in episode four.  It looks fabulous on Jennifer Anniston and on no one else.

Reading

Buckle in, let’s catch up!

Strangers by Belle Burden.  Not related to my personal situation, and I wasn’t going to read it since I had burned out on divorce memoirs, but the hype got to me and it just so happened that the Libby hold came in right before my last road trip, so I listened to the audio book on the way.

I heard a fair amount of “oh she’s so privileged” and “oh how dumb she was to agree to a bad prenup and then to extend herself financially in the marriage”.

Point One: yeah she has more money than me or anyone reading this, but I did not get a privileged vibe at all.  To me she came off as regular folk, just with more homes and more zeros than the rest of us.

Point Two: duh, that’s why she wrote the book!  And also, excuse me but do you split everything exactly 50/50 with your boo?  No one that I know does this.  Most of us don't have a family trust that we're buying our houses out of, but I'd argue that most folks step it up for their partners on the scale that they are able to.

Anyhoo, IMO the hype is justified and the writing is excellent.

More Than Enough by Anna Quindlen.  It was no Every Last One, but I liked it a lot, and I plan to keep reading her.

Follow the River by James Alexander Thom.  This is the book that is not like the other books!  When I did the bridge walk at New River Gorge, the guide told us about this book.  It’s fiction, but based on real people and true events that happened in 1755.  Mary Draper Ingles was a young wife and mother living in Virginia, and her settlement was attacked by the Shawnee.  Mary, her two young sons, and a handful of other people were taken captive and marched from their home through the New River Gorge all the way to what is now Chillicothe, Ohio.  Just in case you’re not familiar with those places, that is a looooooong, loooooong way.

There were two tellings of the story that were recorded in Mary’s lifetime, and in one of the versions she was very pregnant at the time of her capture and in the other version she was not.  From the research that I did, it is known that Mary got special treatment and was allowed to ride a horse instead of having to walk like the other prisoners, so that lends support to the pregnancy theory.

Anyhoo, Mary didn’t like the captive life and she missed her husband, so after a few months she and another woman escaped and made their way back home, largely by following the New River.  It was not a journey for the feint of heart.  I won’t say what happened next, but someone wrote a book and we’re still talking about her.

IMO the book is not particularly well written, and Mary is portrayed as being an absolute saint as opposed to everyone else who just couldn’t get it together to up and walk hundreds of miles home.  And it doesn’t matter, because Follow the River is such an excellent story that it overcomes its writing.  It’s worth reading, or worth putting in the 16 hours of listening time to get through the audiobook, which is what I did.  If you’re looking for an audio book for your next road trip, you just found it.

In An Instant by Suzanne Redfearn is a book that I read for my IRL book club.  It’s about a family who is in a car accident on an isolated mountain road in a snow storm, and is told from the POV of a teenage girl who dies in the accident.  Nothing particularly profound happens, but it was a good read.

Yesteryear by Clair Caro Burke.  You want hype, I got yer hype right here!  This is the one about the trad wife influencer who wakes up in 1855 and gets to live the real trad wife life.  Chef's kiss on this one.

Currently


I’m on a train!!!  I’m on a train!!!  

This is my home for the next 30 hours.  She's tiny.


I dipped into my stash of Amtrak points and made it happen.  So far so good, but everything hinges on if I’m able to sleep tonight.  Stay tuned!!!

Peace out!  Ever done a local move?  Have you read any of these books?  Taken Amtrak overnight?





39 comments:

  1. I hope that this move is all you need it to be! I'm not sure if you read Kath Eat's blog, but she is in a similar season of life and has been chronicling some of her moving (in case it resonates with you and you want to read).

    I look forward to reading about your train adventures, because I fear they are in my future, like it or not! (My husband wants to travel by train, and I am far from sure about it.)

    Keep discovering you, finding the adventure, and feeling the joy!

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    1. Thanks Sarah!

      I'll be back with the story of the train soon! Overall I'm giving it a thumbs up, and I already know that I will be doing more train travel (possibly even with Hubs). The thing to know is that the roomettes are TINY.

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  2. The new place looks great, and Doggo gets an A+ on her downward dog form.

    The last time we moved we moved a few blocks and I remember it being a pain in the ass and I would have rather had a big moving truck do it for us. BUT we had a 2 year old which was surely a factor in that feeling.

    I don’t think I’ve ever spent the night on a train…I’ve taken all day trips, and enjoyed them, but never tried to sleep. I hope you get some rest and enjoy your adventure!

    My daughter bought Yesteryear and read it and is now reading it again. Like mother, like daughter, I guess.

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    1. Moving was a pain, that's for sure!

      Sleep on the train was...not the highlight of the trip, but it was pretty amazing.

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  3. Your new digs looks cosy, Birchie! I'm impressed with your office set-up... I mean three, no wait, FOUR screens?! Looks like you're head of a secret NASA mission.

    Ah, the Mary Draper book! Well, the writing may not be good but the story is incredibly fascinating, absolutely horrific and everything a good story needs to be (and, I'm still hoping, material for the next Netflix series). I will try and get hold of it, I see that I can get it on Kindle.

    30 hours.... I'm trying to figure out where you're off to, my guess is California somewhere?? We will find out soon!

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    1. Not California! I wanted to start with only one overnight just to test the waters.

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  4. I read Strangers and LOVED it (not what she endured, but her writing). I'm on a long list waiting for Yesteryear along with... everyone else.

    I love the idea of such a long train ride. Enjoy. Can't wait to read about all your adventures.

    Your new digs look perfect! I know it's not ideal to have had to move, BUT you are making lemonade out of some lemons and Doggo has clearly made herself at home and you're forging a way forward and I am so proud of you <3

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    1. The train was fun! There will definitely be another trip.

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  5. NEW HOUSE NEW HOUSE NEW HOUSE!!! Thanks for sharing all the photos. OMG, a convenient laundry room makes all the difference. In Calgary, our laundry was in the basement, and it was not exactly convenient.
    I have the same feeling as you with regards to Strangers. I loved it! I did not at all get a privileged vibe from it, or if there was, she was able to point it out. I thought it was great. It was really well written too, unlike the shit I just read (Awake, another memoir of an affair/ marriage dissolution).
    I am glad you're forging ahead with your new life! xoxoxo

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    1. Ugh, Awake was so bad that I didn't even bother to write it down as a DNF. I got about one hour into the audio book, and I just wanted to get away from the author. In contrast, I'm will be reading everything that Belle writes.

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  6. It looks like you got a really nice home for you and Doggo. Heck, the first-floor laundry and a fenced-in yard alone are worth it. I will be thinking enviously of you every time I have to go to my basement for a load.

    My situation with train travel is identical to Sarah's, above. Rick keeps speaking longingly of a train trip in Alaska. I see no reason for it; we've already been to Alaska and I don't care to see a bunch of already-seen scenery from a moving vehicle.

    I hope you enjoy your train trip!

    (I'm also thinking rather enviously of only having to consider myself at dinnertime.)

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    1. Nance, we took a train from Fairbanks to Anchorage, and saw some stunning scenery. But Mt. Denali was shrouded in clouds, and we didn’t see any bears or moose or eagles. We wanted to get from Fairbanks to Anchorage anyway, so it was more fun than an airplane…but I’m not sure I would go all that way. Unless you were going to spend some time at Denali park, that might be worth it.

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    2. Thanks, J. This is exactly how I feel.

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    3. Not gonna lie, only having to cook for myself is one of the big perks of my new life.

      My take on train travel is that I loved my trip and will be doing more BUT there are downsides. For one, it's very tiring. The food was excellent but it got old fast. I don't know what the Alaska train is like, but Amtrak has some SMALL spaces.

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  7. Your new place looks great. Main floor laundry is a really nice feature. I was not as frugal as you when we made our last local move. I packed everything but had the movers move all of it and ended up paying for a couple of extra hours at the end of it.
    I’m looking forward to hearing about your train trip. I love the idea of train travel but haven’t done much of it.

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    1. I'm so glad that I finally did the train trip. I have LOTS to say about it, I just need to come home and sit myself down in front of the computer.

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  8. Love your new place, and I appreciate the gorgeous canine accessory you've used to make the place extra special. Must be nice to have a model on staff.

    I am still unable to lift weights but am not a fan of cardio so I'm being a pouty sullen slug about the whole thing.

    Those tacos look tasty! Adding a layer of melted cheese to anything is a great plan.

    And you are (possibly still?) on a train!!! How cool! I haven't taken an overnight train in a long while, and my last Amtrak experience was a few decades ago. I am eager to hear all the details!

    (This is Suzanne.)

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    1. I just got off the train today! It was a really cool experience.

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  9. I am a hard pass on train travel because I would get too antsy! I'm a huge fan of flying and I have so many miles that I can travel quite a bit without spending a dime for the forseeable future. But I did really enjoy taking a train from Seattle to Vancouver, BC. The train ride was very pretty and the customs process was way easier via train than it would have been traveling by car where there can be a really terribly long line! I hope you were able to sleep last night!

    I love your new place! And that patio furniture looks great. I am tempted to get a set for our back patio area. It would be nice to have additional seating out there besides our patio table. The price can't be beat!

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    1. In some ways train travel is very tiring, and in others it's very relaxing. I'm still processing the experience. It's great for getting reading time, I can tell you that much.

      Great minds think alike! For the price of the patio set, it doesn't need to last forever. It's going to get a ton of use this summer, and hopefully for a few more years after that.

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  10. Your new house looks gorgeous, and I'm glad you're happy and off on your travels again! I can't wait to find out where you end up after 30 hours on a train. I've definitely never been on a train that long. "The Rachel" was all the rage back in the day. I remember reading an interview with Jennifer Aniston, and she said something about how "The Rachel" was impossible to maintain and she relied on the hair people on set to make it look good.

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    1. Hey, if having a hair crew on call is what it takes, then that's what it takes! And the rest of us can relax and not feel bad about our "non staffed" hair.

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  11. Doggo looks so happy in her new place. I mean, I guess you live there, too, but she knows it's all for her!

    I actually think the Rachel haircut is quite flattering on a number of faces, particularly round and heart-shaped faces!

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    1. Her housing requirements were a bit higher than mine!

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  12. Your new place looks fabulous & perfect for you and the doggo :-) I’m excited to hear about your current adventure, via the train! The Rachel haircut… yeah, not for me, either. I have a lot of hair, but not the mandatory thickness to pull off such a ‘do.

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  13. Your new place looks great, Birchie. Have you ever lived alone before? I never had the opportunity really and sometimes envy people who get a whole place to themselves ;) so I hope you enjoy that this space is JUST YOURS.

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    1. Oh yes, I'm a pro at living alone. I didn't meet Hubs until my late 30s.

      There's no such thing as "better than": there are pros and cons to living alone, with a partner, and with a family. But with that said every way has its advantages and I am here to maximize those!

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  14. Have fun on your adventure! I took the same train north but slept in a regular chair. I did not have points and could not justify the extra $800 to get a roomette. However, I did wake up to a new seatmate at 2 am, listening to his IG or FB reels OUT LOUD on his phone. I gave him the what's what pretty quickly though and he turned it off (and then apologized the next morning and proceeded to tell me about his prior meth habit - phew!) So maybe the roomette is the way to go.

    Your place looks great and I am amazed that you got it all together so quickly. I noticed you did not show your bedroom...do you have a bed yet? I think you are going to enjoy living solo, at least I do! Happy travels!

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    1. Yes, I got a bed first thing. But only people who visit my house IRL get to see it.

      They made some very pointed announcements on the train about asking everyone in coach to use headphones. Let's just say that there were multiple announcements throughout the trip. On the way back folks were being very loud in the observation car, so I was very happy that I had my little room as an option.

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  15. Your new digs are so cute (and what a great model Doggo is)! How nice to be near a bike trail and in a walkable place. I cannot wait to hear about this train trip! My daughter and I are easing our way into train travel this summer with 4 and 7 hour journeys, but I am sure 30 hours will be a different sort of adventure, haha! Here's hoping you were able to sleep!

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    1. You figured it out! Sleep was the worst part of the trip. But I know that I will be doing more train travel.

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  16. Oh Jenny, I am so sorry to disappoint, but there were no murders on the train. I did get a good laugh at your comment, though.

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  17. Thanks for the house tour. I love getting a peek into other people's living spaces. I definitely want to read Strangers and Yesteryear because of all the buzz. The train trip!!! I look forward to hearing about that. I love train travel but have never done overnight in one.

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    1. I like seeing other people's homes as well! It's partly due to being nosy, but mostly because I get so many ideas.

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  18. I love the new place! It looks so great and perfect for this season of your life. And I'm glad I could be of inspiration with the patio furniture. It's a great set for the price. <3

    I've ONLY done local moves, but my last move was the first time I used professional movers and it was EVERYTHING. I did the same thing as you - moved a bunch of things myself and then used them for the bigger stuff I didn't want to carry up and down stairs.

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    1. Agree that the set is great! I was worried that it would be too small, but for the price I was willing to take the risk. It ended up being my couch for the first week that I was here until the movers came with my real couch. Now it's a great place to relax with a book or while Doggo is out in the yard.

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  19. I love the new house!!! Truly, it looks just perfect for what you need and bonus to get cheaper rent. You only need 1 bathroom, anyway! The kitchen looks great as do the living spaces and yay for main level laundry! A fenced in yard is the best, too, especially since you have a big dog AND we live in cold climate where sometimes walking is a drag. It's nice to at least have the option to just let them out in the yard for a bit instead.

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    1. A second bathroom would be nice for company and just in case of plumbing issues, but the upside is exactly what you say: one person only needs one bathroom! And one person only needs to clean one bathroom!

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